Sunday, December 27, 2009

Separation and Healing

Going through a tough separation?

Breaking up is always a difficult process, whether you were together for a long period of time or a relatively short one. Not only is it possible to experience feelings like anger, disappointment, or even relief, but it is a time of mourning.

It's ok to feel sad. It's ok to feel a great loss....even if you know the change is for the better. All of these feelings are normal and should be embraced. Feel them. Use them as tools for healing, just don't linger on the negative for long. It will only hurt you and weigh you down, but for a brief time, feel the hurt so you can begin to heal.

We would love to hear your healing story. Please comment or send us an email at
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Friendship in Marriage

"It's not the lack of love, but the lack of friendship that makes many marriages unhappy."
— Friedrich Nietzsche

The power of friendship in a relationship can't be overestimated. You may know you can rely on your partner for anything, but it's important to like each other, too. So put the same amount of effort into your spouse as you give to your friends — funny e-mails, impromptu dinners, all of it.

(Quote taken from Dr. Laura Berman)

Thursday, December 10, 2009


"Blame is one of the surest ways to STAY IN A PROBLEM! In blaming another, we GIVE AWAY our power. Understanding (blame) enables us to rise above the issue and take control of our future."

It is true that many people have said or done something in our lives to hurt us or to cause us grief. It is true that many times we may not even be at fault.....well, maybe not total fault!!

Either way, we cannot change the past and we cannot control others. Those terrible things that caused you so much pain will only continue to make you miserable of you don't let them go and stop blaming others for your problems.

Mothers and fathers will make mistakes. Your boss will too. Your spouse----well, that's a given!

It is our responsibility to be happy in our own lives, to accept the situation we are in, and to understand and learn from them. What would happen if instead of blaming your mother for the past 10 years because of a mistake she made, if you got to understand her and why she made the choice she did? As you show compassion to the person who wronged you, you begin to give YOURSELF the knowledge and power to set yourself FREE. "You can't free yourself until you free them. You can't forgive yourself until you forgive them, you will demand perfection from yourself, and you will be miserable all your life."

Have you held onto something too long and blamed someone else for your unhappiness?
Were you able to free yourself from the blame and pain?
If so, send us your story!

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

It's YOUR life!!

Often times it feels as though our life is crashing down around you, that nothing is going right, and that you have no control over it.

Those moments usually is our mind and bodies way of saying, "it's time for a change!"

"This life is the only one you've got. They key to getting your life right lies, first, in recognizing that it's your life, and second, on accepting the fact that there's only one person who can define "right" for you: YOU!

Defining "right" and getting it "right" are the things that you can do to regain the lost control in your life. There is nothing "wrong" with you!" The feelings you are feeling are just signs that you have changed and you need some new tools for the new adventure you are about to begin. It's a process of self-discovery. It means, "you are stronger than you've ever been, whether you feel it yet or not."